Marriage is a very big
step for any couple. Just like any serious undertaking, you must prepare for
marriage before you go into it. Below are a few attributes that you must have
if you’re to succeed in marriage:
· Patience
One of the key qualities
that every partner in a marriage must have is patience. No two human beings can
have a productive relationship without disagreements. It will not always be
rosy and your patience with each other will keep you from hurting each other
and going to the extreme when you’re angry. Also, children are bound to rub you
the wrong way so you have to prepare yourself for provocation and figure out
how to handle it when it comes.
· Proper
Communication Skills
To succeed in a marriage,
you must learn the art of communication. You must be diplomatic and
cautious and learn to pass your message across without being aggressive and
aggravating your partner unnecessarily. You must be able to read between the lines
of your partner’s words and know when they want to talk and when they just want
to be left alone.
· Selflessness
The act of marriage
requires you to be selfless. You must learn to put your partner and the family
you build together above your own desires. It means that sometimes you’ll want
to buy a new gold watch but you’ll decide to buy your child a toy instead. It
means that you’ll buy a cheaper car just so your husband can indulge his
designer suit fantasies. Being married requires you to be selfless.
· Cooking
This is not just for the
woman. It is very necessary for both partners to know how to cook. A family
must be fed and the wife may not always be available. What happens if the wife
goes on a business trip or if she just had a baby and daddy is left with the
older children? Nobody is saying you should enrol in culinary school but basic
cooking skills are necessary.
· Self-control
A person who will make a
good spouse must have a lot of self-control. Sometimes you will get so angry
that you want to shout and slap somebody but you have to be able to keep
yourself in check. Your husband will annoy you, your wife will upset you and
your kids might decide to be little terrors now and then. You have to be able
to stay calm and handle the matter with maturity.
· Resilience
The journey of marriage
is not for the faint hearted. It requires a lot of work and determination.
Sometimes as a woman, you might be in pain for one reason or the other, yet you
have to find the strength to cook for your family, prepare your children for
school etc. As a man, you might have had a hard day at work and you just want
to lie on your bed and go to sleep, yet you have to fix things when you get
home and do some work here and there. Being successful in marriage requires
resilience and strength.
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